A portion of the plan for my sabbatical includes reading and viewing resources that help in areas that are of utmost importance to me. I selected Dr. Gary Smalley's video curriculum "I Promise" to focus on guarding and growing our marriage.
Through the years Kim and I have always enjoyed Smalley's insight and practical approach to marriage enrichment. To this day we use concepts we learned 15+ years ago as newlyweds. The following quote is taken from the editor of the book:
"Great marriages are built on a foundation of trust, not behavioral skills. So, it's not enough to learn your partner's love language, become proficient in conflict resolution, or to even learn to control your emotions. If your spouse does not feel safe enough to open up their heart without fear of being judged, criticized, blamed, or rejected, nothing you do will be effective. It's only when couples feel emotionally "safe" that they can truly become one, as God intended. Smalley shares five heartfelt promises you can make to your mate that are guaranteed to build trust and help your spouse become the true soulmate, lover, and friend you desire."
This video is available for checkout through the church office. I would recommend that you watch it as a couple and would also encourage you to invite other couples over to view and discuss each weekly session. This material is biblical, fun, and extremely practical.
